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HOW MY WIFE AND KIDS LEFT ME AND CRUSHED MY SOUL.

HOW MY WIFE AND KIDS LEFT ME AND CRUSHED MY SOUL.

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My Name is Francis Muroki. I am 55 Years old.I have worked in senior positions in the media and trotted the globe on media assignments.

For the better part of My career,I covered former president Daniel Arap Moi on his many official trips abroad. And I carefully balanced My work and family life, giving My family the best I could.And Just when My marriage appeared calm,I was rudely jostled out of My comfort zone in a devastating way.

I got married at the Holy Family Basillica in 1986. My wife and I exchanged Golden

Wedding Rings which had arrived from THE VATICAN itself in Rome! And among the many Wedding gifts we received was a huge congratulatory portrait from the POPE

HIMSELF! Pope John Paul,the 2nd.Severally, I had gone to Rome on official duty while working in the media and for the Catholic Church as an editor and writer of the various magazines owned by the Church.

And that’s how I met and made friends with the Pope. It was my day for double blessings when I got a job in 1985 in the editorial department of the then Kenya Times Media Trust in Nairobi. I also met and fell in love with a young girl working in the advertising department. We courted for a year and our love culminated with us walking down the aisle in 1986.

Our marriage was blessed with three children who arrived in quick succession. They were all born at the Nairobi Hospital.

At the time, the hospital demanded early booking and deposit payment three months in advance for any woman who wished to deliver there. I wasn’t worried since I wanted to give my family the best start in life.

Our first child was born in 1987 had bouts of serious tonsillitis for the better part of his childhood. I recall frequenting hospitals and paying huge bills until he finally outgrew his condition.

Our second child was born in 1988 after a very difficult pregnancy. We were so afraid that the baby would be born prematurely.Luckily, this wasn’t the case and the baby girl was born healthy. And in 1990, our last child was born through a Caesarean section. After the Caesarean section, my wife developed a hernia – a very painful condition that cost a lot of money to treat.Her medical bills were so high that I overspent on my medical cover from my employer. I also took some time off work to care for her.

As a result of spending too much time out of the office and claiming more than I should have on the medical cover, everything snowballed into a huge problem and I eventually lost my job at a time when I desperately needed it.Thankfully, while I was employed I had bought land and built a beautiful permanent home in Nairobi’s Ongata Rongai area where we settled.

Additionally, we were a prayerful family and went to church together.My priority was to give my children a good foundation and we enrolled them in good private schools in Meru, Molo and Kisumu. I was big about cars and often sent my wife to Dubai to buy and ship our personal cars and matatus, since we operated a fleet of matatus in Ongata Rongai area.

This was also a chance to expose her to the world and broaden her knowledge. All the vehicles were registered in her name because I was a believer that in a marriage,there should be no division of property.

Eventually in 2007, I left the mainstream media and had spells of being jobless. The

financial situation got worse and progressively started affecting our marriage.

Luckily by the end of 2007, I got a short-term contract with the United Nations Development Programme.By the time the contract ended, our children had completed their high school.Our firstborn enrolled at Strathmore University in 2008, the same year I also enrolled for an evening programe for a communications degree at the Daystar University. In 2009, our other two children enrolled at the Kenya Methodist University (KEMU) in Nairobi. Luckily, my wife who at the time had a steady job in the insurance industry, helped pay their school fees.I struggled to complete my course at

Daystar as well as look for a job. It wasn’t easy and my wife was getting jittery about my jobless status and failure to provide for my family.

Sometimes it was embarrassing when my children asked me to buy them something but I could not afford it.And With time they lost respect for me and my wife didn’t help matters, as she would put me down in their presence. She also changed her attitude towards me.

And then One night in 2010, I fell and hurt my knee near our home as I was coming from evening classes. My family was not bothered when I got into the house in bloodstained clothes. That was the painful beginning of my isolation.Subsequently, I came home one evening in January 2011 and was held captive by my family. My son secured the front door with a chair and kept guard so that I couldn’t get out. My wife and children humiliated me for hours.

They were spoiling for a fight. My eldest son even openly challenged me to a physical fight, as he verbally abused me. It was a very painful experience.

After this incident, my wife hired transport and packed all our household items. ALL OUR HOUSEHOLD ITEMS! And walked out of our 24-year marriage taking along the children.

I was devastated and moved into a lodging in Ongata Rongai until I was totally unable to pay it. I moved back into my empty home where I still live alone to this day. I developed severe depression and started drowning my sorrows in alcohol.

On learning about my marriage break-up, my mother went into shock and collapsed.

She never regained consciousness and died in hospital three weeks later, towards the

end of April 2011.

After her burial, I picked a few items from her house and returned to my house to start life afresh.At 55, I am lonely and only left with memories of my now broken family. I am back to where I started as a young man, with nothing to my name.I have become a total stranger to my family as was evident in mid last year during my children’s graduation. I was not invited and only learnt about the gradation from family friends. The bible has been my best companion, adviser and consoler.I thought I had done the best for my family but today am wiser. Even when you think you are comfortable and settled in your seemingly lasting marriage, don’t bask in your glory.I have since learnt that, just because your spouse is a Christian doesn’t mean they are saints.

And I want to leave You with a quote from the famous philosopher,Friedrich Nietzsche…He said,”It is not a lack of Love, but a lack of Friendship that makes unhappy

marriages.”Friends WOULDN’T abandon Friends. Friends DON’T Leave Friends in trouble. Friends DON’T walk away when things get rough. Friends DON’T wake Up one day and forget EVERYTHING You’ve been through. I thought she was My friend. Turns out I was dead Wrong. I Miss My Family. Now I know what it means to have and lose a family. I pray that Your marriages don’t end up as mine did and also,If You aint married Yet,DON’T RUSH. THINK HARD. Think Very Hard before taking the step…..

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