One question,”why men do not marry single mothers”.Single mothers are women who gave birth and their men disappeared. It has been confirmed that men, world over, get scared of marrying these women. Single mothers, like any other women would like to receive love from men, but due to the fact that they have children, it always become difficult for them to be married.
If you are a single mother and you have all along wondered why you are not getting married, here are opinions from men.
Justin,
There is this woman I got attracted to in our office. After dating her for a while, I ended up marrying her. I didnโt mind the fact that she had a kid from previous marriage, all that I wanted was someone who could keep me company.
We married in 2013 and started living together. I took her with the kid.
One year passed and I didnโt see any problems, in the second year started she got pregnant. She delivered well, but in the hospital, her former husband appeared.
In my presence, she hugged the former husband and almost kissed-I felt jealous.
Problems started when the ex-husband started visiting her in our home, in the name of meeting his kid. At first I resisted but I realized the woman I married was not comfortable with my reaction.
After some time, he started frequenting, he could come weekly.
I persevered for a while before I let my wife go, I chased her away. I swore not to marry a single woman again.
Another estranged man explained why he canโt advise men to marry single mothers:
David,
I know you will laugh at me, but let me tell my story. I married a woman, Josephine who had three children from her former marriage. This woman looked down to earth and God fearing. The fact that she stood out among my girlfriends ensured I took her as my wife without having a second thought.
We stayed married for exactly one year and she was pregnant. Immediately after delivering my child, she started showing her true character. The woman, who I treated like a queen, started accusing me of neglecting his three children. She could not even allow me to discipline the kids even when they were in the wrong. Finally, we parted ways and I lost half of my wealth through a court case. My money is now feeding another manโs childrenโฆI feel bitter.
Gilbert, 32, also narrates what he went through after marrying a single mother.
I will never forget what this woman did to me.Imagine we got married and told them clearly that I donโt want to see her ex-husband near us. The woman obeyed for a while until she gave birth to my second child.
Since I was busy, I couldnโt monitor her movements, only to realize later she was still dating her ex-husband. I found out through her Facebook account messages, which indicated they had slept together in several occasions. I divorced her.
Mike,a father of three also explains why single mothers are a no go zone
โMy mother was a single mother and I know what it means for a woman to be in this state. My mother always said single mothers were born to be single, these women want some sense of freedom, which is not found in marriages. Even if they are married, they will eventually be single, either through divorce or by killing their husbandsโ
