There is a good reason why God stated that sex before marriage is a sin. Marrying a woman with kids is the greatest injustice you can do to yourself. But before I let the cat out of the bag, here is what I witnessed last year.
Jeff met Jenifer in 2016 at a seminar in Nairobi. He got interested in her and asked for friendship. But before they could go far with their friendship, Jenifer made it clear that she has two kids. But Jeff didn’t bother about the kids, he made it clear that he will embrace the relationship because kids come from God.
Their friendship blossomed until they got married in 2017.Jenifer moved into Jeff’s house with her two kids.
March this year, the man who sired Jenifer’s last born arrived from USA.Jenifer heard about him and she secretly went to the airport to welcome him. Luckily, the man had come to settle in Kenya permanently and he made it clear he wanted to see his son.
Since Jenifer still loved the man, who was also loaded, she agreed to take the son to the man.Jenifer cheated her husband that she was going to the village with the son and instead went to the man who sired him. The worst thing is that she slept there and they had intimacy. From there love blossomed until Jenifer’s husband noticed there was something amiss. Jeff was extremely hurt and he had to call off their marriage.
This is one example of cases that happen in arrangements where men married women with kids. Before you marry, please note that the following are reasons you should not marry a woman with kids.
She will still love the father(s) of her kids
One thing you should note is that the woman once loved the father of her kids and no matter how she pretends to love you more than them, she still loves them. If by chance they meet in a seminar where they have freedom and space, they can have intimacy. As a man, when you decide to marry such a woman, you also agree to share the woman with her former husband.
She will be nagging
One character of a single mother is that she must consistently nag. The worst is that no matter how madly you love her kids she will always say you don’t love them the way she wishes you to.
The kids may not bear the character you would wish them to have
The kids you didn’t sire bear different genes that come with different character from yours. You may marry a woman who conceived with a thief and end up taking care of a thief.
It’s better you sire children that are yours such that if they develop some strange behavior, you’ll at least know they inherited from you.
The children may not respect you
You may behave well, treat them well and do everything as a parent but the children’s respect towards you will be limited because they know you are not the biological father.
The woman will certainly cheat on you with her ex husbands
Whether you like it or not,your wife will always cheat on you whenever she gets a chance. Don’t be cheated that she doesn’t love her ex-husbands.