Next time you see lovers arguing don’t give that look and tell yourself ‘I know they are headed for the end’. No! This can seem ironical but believe it or not, partners who are constantly arguing could be so much in love with one another. Arguing different from quarreling. It is the exchanging of different views or opinions. This is where both lovers express their honest opinions based on their personalities and ideologies.
Many of you think that people who are in a relationship must always be in perpetual honeymoon stage exchanging smiles, kisses, laughter, cuddling and holding each other’s hand. That is not the reality my friend. Those moments get over and we face real world. It is not always that everything goes on well, sometimes we have to compromise and concede. No one is perfect and so there is no way one person will always be right. This is why lovers will argue, so one may understand and appreciate the humanity in the other, the weaknesses, and the strengths and also discover each other.
Thank me if you argue sometimes. Something is totally wrong if you have never argued! We disagree to agree. We damage, break and rebuilt into something greater and stronger to last long. However, as much as arguments are healthy, understand that some arguments carry a lot of weight. What are you arguing about? Is it a must that you should argue? Is it necessary? Does it add any value to your relationship? If the answers are yes to these questions, look for proper and constructive ways of arguing instead of heated argumentation that may disrupt the chemistry and weaken the bond of the union.
Choose your words wisely. Be civilized. Words are powerful and can never be taken back once spoken. They have the power to pierce like a sword or give a gentle blow; never say what will make you regret later. However, be courageous enough to say what you need to say and be willing to admit when you find that you are wrong. It is important to be open minded and accommodative; place yourself in the shoes of your partner and see things from their perspective. This way you will emerge happier, more reconnected and deeply in love.
